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Unconscious patterns of self sabotage are often seen as significant impediments to one’s success.

Why do they happen and how can they be forever released?

Well in short there are a number of reasons for their existence such as:

1. I don’t deserve to be successful.

2. I’m afraid of success.

3. I’m afraid I might fail.

4. Fear of making mistakes.

5. Fear of taking full responsibility for one’s decisions and actions.

6. Fear that success will change me as a person.

7. Fear that success will cause others to take advantage of me.

And so on.

All of the above beliefs and feelings are pre-programmed into you from early childhood experiences in your family, or through interactions with others whose confidence you choose to accept. This programming is held deep inside of you and is just waiting to be called upon whenever you get too close to success.

In other words it is often two steps ahead of you and waiting to head you off at the pass.

What can you do about these programs? Well first it is important to recognize that they are there, that they are unconscious, that they must be made conscious and that by doing so the opportunity to flush them out once and for all exists.

The fact that they cannot be eliminated if you are not consciously aware of them is very important.

Now all such negative programming is sourced from negative memories that feed and anchor them into your being. These negative memories, by definition, have associated with them painful negative emotions which you have chosen to suppress from conscious awareness. They have been suppressed because you have been afraid of re-experiencing these painful feelings.

So what is being said here is that in order to release the negative programming one must first release the fear of feeling the painful feelings associated with them. Here I will take you through this first crucial step in your journey to success.

So we’ll begin with the fear of feeling and enduring painful feelings from the past (i.e. things such as sadness, shame, embarrassment, grief, guilt, anger, etc.)

What is the benefit to you of having this fear living inside you?

Well one might say that the fear allows me to suppress these painful feelings out of conscious awareness so that,

I won’t have to feel them, so that,

I can achieve a sense of relief, inner peace, a sense of calm, safety, security, so that,

I can function effectively in my daily life and achieve success, happiness and fulfillment.

One can not keep these fear dormant. They manifest them self in other area’s of your life.
Where have you in your own life have been on the road to success only to stop short before reaping the benifits of your hard work?

These self sabotaging patterns can be changed on the unconscious level easily and effortlessly.

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L = low self esteem (Lack of confidence in your own merit as an individual person)

I = Isolation (the process of separating somebody or something from others, or the fact of being alone and separated from others)

F = Fear (False Evidence Appearing Real)

E = energy level – or lack of (the ability or power to work or make an effort)

Today’s Post is about Self-Esteem and Limiting Beliefs

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. How people experience their self-esteem can vary over time and be dependent on certain life events and your belief system, such as a job loss, relationship breakup, or poor grades, which can temporarily lower one’s self-esteem. It affects everything you do:

• How you live with money
• How you select a major, career or job
• How you choose and relate to friends
• How you relate to your children
• How you give and receive love
• How successful you are at reaching your goals
• How well you perform in school or work

   

Generally, one of three categories describes how people evaluate themselves:

• High self-esteem people see themselves as self-assured with plenty of confidence about their worth as people.
• Middle self-esteem people reflect qualities of both high and low self-esteem.
• Low self-esteem people feel self-hate and who doubt their own value. They are fearful and feel alienated.

 

People with HIGH Self-Esteem are generally:

• Not defeated by mistakes or failures
  
• Eager to express themselves
  
• Comfortable in a leadership or active role
  
• Able to handle criticism and learn from it
  
• Unlimited in their development
  
• Ready to take appropriate risks
  
• Positive about life
  
• Healthy in their habits
  
• Comfortable laughing at themselves
  
• Not afraid of new things
  
• Trusting and hopeful
  
• Involved with others
  
• Able to experience their feelings fully
  
• Aware of personal strengths and weaknesses
  
• Content with their lives
  
• Not inclined to be boastful
  
• Able to ask for help when it’s needed
  

People with LOW Self-Esteem are generally:

• Convinced of their worthlessness
  
• Full of feelings of insignificance
  
• Unsure of their abilities Likely to stick with the easy and familiar
  
• Uncomfortable with praise
  
• Fearful and unsure about the future
  
• Paralyzed by fear
  
• Perfectionists to extremes
  
• Blind to new opportunities
  
• Negative thinkers, overly concerned about the opinion of others. Not capable of handling criticism or rejection
  
• Defensive
  
• Procrastinators
  
• Defeated easily
  
• Uncomfortable in social situations
  
• Manipulative
  
• Inclined to blame others
  

 

Many people lack positive self-esteem because of negative Limiting Beliefs they picked up in childhood from parents or peers. Self-esteem can be damaged if you continue to believe the negative messages received early in life regardless of the reality of these messages. It doesn’t matter if you were attractive, well-behaved, said all the right things, got good grades and were sweeter than your sister. All that matters is what you thought or believe about yourself at those times. If you had negative thoughts or beliefs about yourself, your self-esteem as an adult is probably suffering. If you had positive thoughts, your self-esteem is probably stronger.

Self-esteem can also be damaged if you act against your own sense of values or belief system, such as honesty and integrity. You may judge yourself too harshly for certain behaviors that go against these values or belief system.

 

 

 

I believe part of writing a post should be of benefit to the readers.

So you have the oppertunity to ask for what you need.

You matter. You count. Your input matters so please help me help you and answer the short poll below.

What is a Limiting belief and why would you want to change it?

    Limiting beliefs are the things that you believe about yourself that place limitations on your abilities.  They may be conscious or unconscious, founded or unfounded.  Limitations are actually a product of the mind and in reality; there are no limitations on a person.  Anything can be done if you put your mind to it.

 

Way change it?

To get what you have always longed for.

 

Have you ever had thoughts like these?

        These are all limiting beliefs

It will take a long time to _____________. (Fill in the blank)

I don’t have enough money for that.

I can’t afford that.

That is to hard / difficult.

I’ll never be good at that.

This always happens to me.

Why can’t I ever get ahead?

That’s just the way life is.

I’m not good at_____________. (Fill in the blank)

If I make a lot of money people will want some.

It takes a long time to make lots of money.

People with lots of money are rude.

You have to break the law to get rich.

People like me don’t get rich.

I’ll never be good enough.

My kids will always be like this.

 

 

If there was a way to change limiting beliefs into old beliefs and then install new positive empowering beliefs?

What do you think your life would be like?

I know difficult question to answer because you’re still living with that old belief system.

 

Well let me tell you, there is a way, and in less than an hour I went from being nervous to talk to and in front of people to being a public Speaker. I hated talking on the phone for sales or following up, now I enjoy it.

 

Here is another example I tell my clients all the time. It is the simplest why I can explain Limiting beliefs and how they affect our life.

 

A while back my wife and I bought a new bed, one of those thick foam beds. While shopping for the bed I told my wife, just find something you are comfortable with I can sleep on anything. (Belief) After about a week I woke up one morning with a sore back. My mind created a connection between my sore back and the new bed. (New Limiting Belief) So as with our beliefs they are validated though out our life. The way my mind and my life validated this belief was on the weekend I would sleep on the couch and when I woke up my back was fine, during the week I sleep in the new bed and I woke up with a sore back. (VALIDATION) after about a month of continuing to validate my new Limiting Belief and yes it was limiting (my sleep, my relationship, my work performance, my attitude and so on) I decided to use the process I know and change that limiting belief. It has been about 9 months now I have been sleeping in the bed and waking up with NO sore back.

 

Ask yourself these questions

Do I believe there’s a great deal more to life than I’m now experiencing?

Does whatever I’ve achieved to date still leave me asking, “Why am I not satisfied?”

Do I really want to get beyond the restrictions of my ego, my core beliefs, and discover who I am?

Do I want to improve my self-esteem, my sense of self-worth?

Do I want to eliminate fear, anxiety, and/or depression?

Do I want to overcome self-sabotaging behavior and addictions?

Do I want to rid myself of emotional pain, physical illness or dis-ease,  and remain healthy for the rest of my now-extended life?

Do I want to discover and fully enjoy the abundance life has to offer?

Do I want to become wealthy in every way – with excellent health, joy and happiness, love for myself and others, and financial freedom?

Do I want to be in touch with my spirit?

And, am I willing to do the work necessary to achieve these things?

 

IF you answered YES to any of these then Email of call me and find out what solutions can help you achieve the life you desire.