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L = low self esteem (Lack of confidence in your own merit as an individual person)

I = Isolation (the process of separating somebody or something from others, or the fact of being alone and separated from others)

F = Fear (False Evidence Appearing Real)

E = energy level – or lack of (the ability or power to work or make an effort)

Today’s Post is about Self-Esteem and Limiting Beliefs

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. How people experience their self-esteem can vary over time and be dependent on certain life events and your belief system, such as a job loss, relationship breakup, or poor grades, which can temporarily lower one’s self-esteem. It affects everything you do:

• How you live with money
• How you select a major, career or job
• How you choose and relate to friends
• How you relate to your children
• How you give and receive love
• How successful you are at reaching your goals
• How well you perform in school or work

   

Generally, one of three categories describes how people evaluate themselves:

• High self-esteem people see themselves as self-assured with plenty of confidence about their worth as people.
• Middle self-esteem people reflect qualities of both high and low self-esteem.
• Low self-esteem people feel self-hate and who doubt their own value. They are fearful and feel alienated.

People with HIGH Self-Esteem are generally:

• Not defeated by mistakes or failures
  
• Eager to express themselves
  
• Comfortable in a leadership or active role
  
• Able to handle criticism and learn from it
  
• Unlimited in their development
  
• Ready to take appropriate risks
  
• Positive about life
  
• Healthy in their habits
  
• Comfortable laughing at themselves
  
• Not afraid of new things
  
• Trusting and hopeful
  
• Involved with others
  
• Able to experience their feelings fully
  
• Aware of personal strengths and weaknesses
  
• Content with their lives
  
• Not inclined to be boastful
  
• Able to ask for help when it’s needed
  

People with LOW Self-Esteem are generally:

• Convinced of their worthlessness
  
• Full of feelings of insignificance
  
• Unsure of their abilities Likely to stick with the easy and familiar
  
• Uncomfortable with praise
  
• Fearful and unsure about the future
  
• Paralyzed by fear
  
• Perfectionists to extremes
  
• Blind to new opportunities
  
• Negative thinkers, overly concerned about the opinion of others. Not capable of handling criticism or rejection
  
• Defensive
  
• Procrastinators
  
• Defeated easily
  
• Uncomfortable in social situations
  
• Manipulative
  
• Inclined to blame others
  

Many people lack positive self-esteem because of negative Limiting Beliefs they picked up in childhood from parents or peers. Self-esteem can be damaged if you continue to believe the negative messages received early in life regardless of the reality of these messages. It doesn’t matter if you were attractive, well-behaved, said all the right things, got good grades and were sweeter than your sister. All that matters is what you thought or believe about yourself at those times. If you had negative thoughts or beliefs about yourself, your self-esteem as an adult is probably suffering. If you had positive thoughts, your self-esteem is probably stronger.

Self-esteem can also be damaged if you act against your own sense of values or belief system, such as honesty and integrity. You may judge yourself too harshly for certain behaviors that go against these values or belief system.